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"*You cannot vanish your unconscious anger.*You can only mature it."- Anne-Chloé Destremau

...if anger is taboo, thought will starve to death.

Conscious Use Of Rage

Max Wilbert of Deep Green Resistance

from Brad Blanton's book Radical Honesty

Conscious or Unconscious Anger

Section image Your Unsophisticated Ways Of Handling Rage

UNCONSCIOUS USE OF ANGER:

Repress your anger. (Enter denial, the self-created delusion that you are not angry. Just don't go there.)
Think about being angry. (Let angry thoughts fight invisible arguments in your head. Do not make a sound about it.)
'Cathart' your anger. ('Catharsis' is when you throw your anger away, as if anger is a 'bad' feeling, trying to 'calm down' and get some 'relief', instead of discerning whether your anger is a Feeling or an Emotion, and then Cathect your anger. 'Cathexis', in this example, means to direct and apply this precious resource of anger appropriately.)
Sloppily project your anger onto someone else. ("Here you take it! It's about you! This is your fault!")

CONSCIOUS USE OF ANGER:+ Create a container where your anger can be expressed in a safe way. In the case of rage, use it to inform you that now might be a time to make a boundary, to say what you are afraid of saying, to ask for what you want, to say "No!" or "Stop it now!", to create something that has never been created, to go beyond imaginary limits where you have never gone before, to make moves, to explore, to speak out. In other words, use your mind to do something intelligent with your anger.

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What If You Are Sitting On Evolutionary Rocket Fuel And You Do Not Know How To Pilot A Starship?

Rage is the passion that shows me exactly where to step. Rage roots me deep into my commitment. Rage stabilizes me in a place where I might be prone to getting pulled into addictive behaviors and thought forms that do not serve my hearts devotion. Rage as a pure white hot anchor, pulls me to center, pierces through the distortions that might blow me off track. Rage was in my body from being in an abusive relationship and made my body physically ill and using the passion of the NO inside that Rage to cut the enmeshed ties and literally PUSH the illness out of my body by severing the energetic chords keeping me tied to harm. After nearly a year of chronic illness, recovered almost completely over night after a deep ceremony of utilizing the energy of Conscious Rage. Rage as a supreme righteousness that took action where there was injustice. On the outside I was extremely calm, steady and grounded. Inside the fire was FLAMING with the Rage of injustice. That Rage gave immense steadfastness. I would NOT quit until justice was served. The Rage was pure white hot power. It was total and absolute. It moved mountains. Justice was eventually served.

How I Use My Conscious Anger

from Israel Kairós

I'm sharing some of my edge-Noticing about my Anger discoveries.

Anger is very efficient to Commit myself, in accordance with the time to develop Agreements using fear. My Conscious Anger is much more effective. The Attentiveness of Conscious Anger sharpens my sense of listening. However to hear what is important to the others, or the real need of the others, that leads to the need for an agreement, Conscious Sadness is more effective.
When I tried to use my Conscious Anger to create a deal with my partner, it was a disaster. The energy of Anger drove me to be more direct and practical, and this opened a space for Low Drama from Reactivity. After trying several times I just had to go to my room and cry a lot. I listened to my Sadness, and what she told me was to use Sadness to further refine my Proposal by listening more deeply to my partner's needs. The result was incredible. In 3 minutes, we created Agreements with a lot of Connection using Conscious Sadness, and then I used my Conscious Anger to commit myself to the new Experiments in the Agreements we created.
I can use 10% Conscious Rage to be completely Unhookable to Gremlin hooks. It is very interesting to note that when I am just not available to feed my Gremlin or the Gremlin of the other (without having to specifically say I'm not available) the Boxes run out of ways to create tension or conflict, and the Gremlins cannot take over.
I can use 15% Conscious Anger in my transformational listening space to create an Extraordinary space without domination of Gremlins and Boxes. My Anger keeps my Sword Of Clarity to hand, so I am clear about not wanting to know about the Gremlin or the person's Box. I can then stay focused on being in connection with and listening to the BEING of the other.
I can use 20% of Phase 2 Conscious Anger to create a Context in a Space of Radical Honesty, Radical Responsibility, and Radical Relating where I invoke the Adult within every BEING in the Space.
I can use 10% Conscious Anger to make a Bubble Of Personal Space and a Grounding Cord much more 'firm'. The way I do this is to intentionally direct the energy of my Anger into the 'click' of my Clicker like a little energetic explosion of Declaring in my fingers.

Section image How to Hold Space For Someone to Unleash Their Conscious Anger

Holding space for someone to learn how to feel their anger - probably for the first time - does not happen through "pushing" them to feel. People are already angry, you do not have to make them angry. Pushing someone to feel their feelings is as abusive as pushing someone to not feel their feelings. Your job as a spaceholder is to hold a safe space for your client to take a risk in expressing an energy they might have never experienced before.
The safety comes from you providing thoughtware upgrades and new distinctions that your client are missing to inner navigate their conscious Anger (and Sadness, Fear and Joy).

The safety comes also from you being unhookable to their Gremlin strategies who might make you want to believe that:

They don't feel anger ever
They can feel their anger without making sound

The safety comes from your commitment to their commitment to growing up in relation to their Anger.

Here aress ome core distinctions in learning to feel Anger:

Upgrading the capacity to feel, express and use Anger consciously happens mostly through the voice, not the body. Rage work is mostly voice work, not body work.

When someone is learning how to feel, if they do not make sounds above 21% intense anger they are not feeling their anger. They are most probably thinking they are feeling. Thinking happens in the mind. Feeling happens in the heart.

Ask and / or tell your client what % of conscious anger they are experiencing. If there is no sound, then it is less than 21%.

If someone is showing physical sign of anger (sweat, aggitation, hyperventilation, etc...), and they are not making sounds, then their anger is UNCONSCIOUS. Which means your client has a high numbness bar, and their anger is not expressed consciously.

Ask them what survival strategy have they developped to suppress their anger: imploding, exploding, depression, hysteria, withdrawing, ...?

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Notice how they are suppressing experiencing their conscious anger right now, and tell them all the ways: you blow it out, you hold it in in your chest, you go in your head, you have an image about anger instead of feeling angry, etc...

If your client is afraid of big sounds or making big sounds, it is often because they have were the subject of unconscious anger in their life - most often their parents - which came with violent shouting. Big sounds is then wired in them with their earlier experience. The healing process to be able to hear and be fine around big sounds is for your client to realize that they have the same sound inside of themselves, and that when they express the sound consciously, they become bigger than the sounds. The sounds are not bigger than them anymore.
Take it slowly.

For a man, it is huge to learn how to feel consciously anger. It requires that a part of their identity has to die. All their Anger about the patriarchy, about the sacrifices they had to make to be accept among the patriarchs, about how they had to disconnect themselves from Nature, the Feminine and the authentic Masculine, about how their mother made them into good boy or tried to 'kill' them, on and on and on, ... Men have huge Anger and in the patriarchy, they are never allowed to feel any of it. Feeling that anger is a betrayal of the patriarchy.

As a spaceholder, keep in mind that all of this is at work when a Men starts unleashing their Anger. Keep the big perspective in mind.

Hint for spaceholder: Try to remember how it was for you to learn to feel your conscious anger, what you heard your own spaceholder say, what you needed to hear, what helped, what didn't. Keep a foot in your first experience of feeling conscious anger so you can have compassion for your client, without rescuing them.

"I know some of you are very worried about flailing wild banshees, screaming their heads off.I get that.For me, I'm more concerned about all the complacent good girls I see, fawning, and playing nice. "Maya Luna, Read full article here

Resources

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