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WHO ARE YOU... AS A
FREE AND NATURAL ADULT?
Ongoing Adulthood Initiatory Processes can bridge a person into authentic Adulthood, but if you limit yourself to endless Emotional Healing Processes, then your Free And Natural Adult Character may never properly emerge. Further challenges await you on the Path...
Phase 1 and Phase 2 of Adulthood
ORDINARY CHILDHOOD
Some of us in modern culture experienced what one could call an 'ordinary' childhood. You get born in a hospital with your mother under some form of anesthesia, or simply yanked out of your mother's womb by the patriarchal doctor who cuts open your 'incompetent' mother's belly at his convenience. You are weighed, vaccinated, blood sample taken, some goo squirted into your eyes, shoved into a sterilized plastic incubator because in reality, you were 'born' prematurely.
Maybe you were breast fed for a short while, then moved over to canned 'baby food' as was convenient to your parents. They put you in childcare as early as two years old, and school as soon after that as was legally possible so they could both work to earn enough money to pay for rent and food. Or your father left soon after you were born and you grew up with the stresses of having a single mom.
This is all classified as 'normal' in modern capitalist patriarchal empire culture. In Archearchy, these conditions would be considered 'abusive', and indeed, in comparison with what your being needed to land on Earth in the arms of Gaia so you could bring your true potentials and knacks productively forward to serve the village, these 'modern' conditions fail miserably. Barely a few are lucky or resilient enough to buck the hierarchical systems and retain enough willpower to liberate their gifts.
ABUSED CHILDHOOD
Over the years of sitting across from people during Possibility Coaching sessions, or while delivering Expand The Box trainings and Possibility Labs, we have had to keep revising our estimate upwards for how many of us have been abused during our childhood. Our current estimate is at least 70%.
I have had to sob out loud to admit this number. My view towards holding a higher percentage of healthy childhoods was distorted by forgetting that those who make it into Healing or Initiatory processes with us are the lucky ones, the least scarred.
The other 70% will probably remain locked into whatever Survival Strategy they fabricated to Numb or distract themselves enough to make it through their days and nights without committing suicide, one way or another.
It can be shocking to admit that you have been abused. It seems to lock you into an inescapable Victim position in the Low Drama triangle. If you admit to having been abused it seems there will no longer be a possibility of regaining self-respect, dignity, or honor. It seems that way, but it is not true.
Admitting the abuse - naming names, dates, actions or inactions - brings you into a closer connection with Reality, a position from which your decisions and actions have more actual power to cause change, healing, and transformation. In other words, your steps along the Path into Adulthood are fortified the closer you get towards accurately acknowledging and reporting what actually happened to you. This, or course, is done in a Team with others who have undertaken a similar Path of healing, initiation, and transformation, and are skillfully holding and navigating space for each other's Processes.
There are many ways of being abused:
- PHYSICAL ABUSE index.php?p=saystop, index.php?p=makeboundaries, index.php?p=realvoice, index.php?p=firstposition. Being slapped, spanked, beaten with a belt, rubber hose, or branch, forced to stand in a corner or a closet, not being fed, being screamed at, being forced to watch parents scream at or beat each other, being sent outside or locked in a room, etc. are all forms of Physical Abuse. No amount of "This hurts me more than it hurts you..." or, "This is for your own good..." bullshit justifies any of this.
- SEXUAL ABUSE index.php?p=sexualabuse, index.php?p=whitewidow. Any man who remains in patriarchal culture is de facto uninitiated. Uninitiated adolescent males are given power positions in corporate, governmental, medical, religious, military, and educational hierarchies. This is insane. (See index.php?p=thehierarchy.
- INTELLECTUAL / PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE index.php?p=psychopaths, index.php?p=quitschool, index.php?p=healfromschool. Intellectual / Psychological Abuse is horribly tolerated in most modern cultures. For example, if a child falls down and painfully skins their knee, and the parent says, "Nothing happened," this is Psychological Abuse. If the child is sent to public school which is designed to stamp them into a pre-formatted curriculum and suppress their actual innate potentials, talents, and knacks, this is terrible Intellectual / Psychological Abuse.
- EMOTIONAL ABUSE index.php?p=consciousfeelings. Emotional Abuse is horribly tolerated in most modern cultures. For example, if a child falls down and painfully skins their knee, and the parent says, "Don't cry. Big boys don't cry!" this is Emotional Abuse.
- ENERGETIC ABUSE index.php?p=evolutionofrelationship, index.php?p=balls. A mother in the Patriarchy chooses one of two strategies for raising her children. The choice is almost always made unconsciously. If the child is a girl, the mother trains her daughter to hate men and get revenge on men, or she trains her to be a 'nice girl' prostitute play-thing to capture a rich and powerful patriarch. If the child is a boy, the mother hates the boy and belittles, criticizes, crushes, and destroys the boy to get revenge against all the abusive 'adolescent boys' they have experienced in the Patriarchy, or, the mother over indulges the boy child trying to make him into a 'nice boy', a 'good boy', the kind of person the mother thinks she would prefer to be with. Often the mother will unconsciously relate to her girl-child as a dangerous competitor against her for the husband/partner, and / or will try to force the boy-child into being a husband-surrogate. In either case of girl or boy child, the mother might also promote a White Widow or even Black Widow Survival Strategy, mixing 'sexual energetic substance exchange' in as part of the child's Survival Strategy. All of these are terrible forms of Energetic Abuse.
- ARCHETYPAL ABUSE index.php?p=4lineages, index.php?p=brightprinciples. Human beings are designed to interact with the Archetypal nature of the Universe. Although Archetypal elements may appear in architecture, artwork, and super-hero films, it is not taken into account during daily life and interactions. This gives the Archetypal a flavor of being superficial or even imaginary, and it is most definitely not. The disparity between what we sense as true and important during certain moments of childhood, and what is regarded at 'important' by the 'adults' leaves scars from Archetypal Abuse.
- COMBINED ABUSE index.php?p=shadowprinciples, index.php?p=yourgremlin. Just because the Shadow World seems to operate at unconscious levels, beneath the threshold of awareness of a 'good citizen', does not mean that World is not thriving. What this means in practical terms is that, without paying Initiated Adulthood Attention, "[Youtube cegl1BZ-0tI
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