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Here it is.

The landscape 'men' have created.

Steel and concrete buildings laid out in squares.

Two chairs.

Nobody sits in them.

Where are the ecosystems that support life?

Nobody is at home.

Who washes the windows and cleans the pool?

The slaves...

At least the slaves have a life.

3 out of 4 suicides are 'men'.

CURRENT REALITY

Nine out of ten readers of this website are women.

Three out of four suicides are 'men'...

Nine out of ten readers of this website called 'Men's Circle' are women...

Hmmmm.... why is that?

My theory is that women read this website because they still hope 'men' can grow up, and the women would do anything to help.

The Women's Liberation Movement started in the 1960s.

Women are far ahead of 'men' in the evolution of consciousness.

What then is a women to do when she wants to look in the eyes of a Man who can see Her...

...as something other than a sex toy, a possession, a mother-substitute, a slave?

Where is the Man initiated enough to call the Archetypal Woman to life through Her?

Where is the man who is Archetypal enough to shine in Her company?

To creatively collaborate with Women and Men in Archiarchy?

Good questions.

Wrestling with such questions helps you escape the patriarchy.

IT IS TIME TO BURN ALL YOU KNOW ABOUT

'BEING A MAN'.

YOUR Golden Key IS QUESTIONS

The necessity of an authentic question is vital enough to push you through your fears of discovering an edge of the patriarchy. Bridges to archearchy begin only at the edges of patriarchy.

Women want answers to these questions:

What is this thing that gets in the way between women and men being together that men want something from women. Men are always trying to get or consume or take something from women. What is this about?
Why are men so preoccupied with trying to reach the top, and then the next top, and the next? Men are so distracted with this. It makes no sense to us?
How is it that men have adopted the White Widow sexual energy games that women so often play? Men use flirtatious seductions, then drop women in the dust. Why can’t men be men?
How can women invite men into spaces of transformation, evolution, communication, and community? It is so clear that men are terrified of losing something they hold so dear if they enter initiation. Women have been proceeding. Now women are ahead of the men. Where are the men to meet us where we are? What can a woman do to make the evolution of consciousness attractive to men? We are tired of shrinking ourselves down to the awareness level of the man?
Men seem so lost in this shift time. They are so out of touch with themselves and with what is needed now. How can women truly support men to make the needed shifts in this time of great change?
How can a woman step into her mystical archetypal feminine power and support a man without diminishing him in comparison?
How could it be that men so significantly bullshit themselves with regards to taking enough responsibility, accountability, authority to the systems that need to be changed right now?
What forces men to withhold and lie? Why are men not telling us women about their lies? What are men so afraid of that they cannot show us? What are men not putting on the table? And why? Why don't men realize how much pain it causes and how much true intimacy it destroys? Why don't men mourn what they are missing out on? Why don't men mourn what they are killing?
How do men benefit from holding that there is some kind of myth about the masculine?
What is it in a man that when a woman takes the time, energy, and risk to clarify the immensity and complexity of the devastating problems at hand, the man behaves so insanely as to say, “This is not a problem,” ??? How does he think this helps? How does he think he is seen from the eyes of an Earth-connected, grounded, centered, present woman?
What stops men from taking responsible leadership and spaceholding? Why can't men keep an awake contact with the underworld and create a bright future for humanity?

"Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose."

from The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

"Men's chief self-deception in modern civilization is to avoid distinguishing which 'I' is doing your evaluating, and what that identity's hidden purpose is. Living alertly in this distinction is the beginning of male initiations in archearchy."

from Possibility by Clinton Callahan

'MEN'S' CIRCLE EXPERIMENTS

Enough of 'men' talking...

It takes extraordinary (shocking) experience to get a patriarch out of his head.

A 'Men's Circle Experiment' is extraordinary experience you create for yourself, on purpose.

What's the purpose? To escape the patriarchy.

"Burn down the mission, if you're going to stay alive..." (Elton John)

Probably you won't actually do any of these Experiments.

Your soul has been abducted since birth by the patriarchy.

There is little left in in you with enough will to choose something different.

Too bad.

Life in archearchy is quite exquisitely good.

Do these Experiments in the order in which they are given.

Trying to jump ahead is like trying to eat bread before it is baked.

You are definitely not baked.

START A MEN'S CIRCLE

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You cannot escape the patriarchy without a Team. Your inner world is too frail to withstand the shock of seeing how much you do not know that actually matters. You won't make it to archearchy as you are. You are a joke.

Bringing a few uninitiated 'men' together for a weekly Men's Circle Team meeting without already knowing how to create and navigate energetic Space is like trying to lift yourself up by pulling on your own hair.

You already know it will hurt. Not only that, it probably won't work.

Where to start in the immense horror of it all...

What horror, you ask?

Ah, yes. This is what we confront: dullness in you about the horrors of 'men'.

There are two rules in the Men's Circle:

Don't hurt yourself.
Don't hurt anyone else.

These rules cannot make sense because you think that having a feeling 'hurts'. The Purpose of this Men's Circle is to escape the patriarchy. You are bringing together your Patriarchy Escape Team. If you want to stay in the patriarchy, GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. You are being held prisoner in the patriarchy because you are a patriarch. If you were not a patriarch the patriarchy could not hold you prisoner. Your awareness, talents, intentions, and projects would be contexted in distinctions that the patriarchy does not even know that it does not know about. Your Being would be of a shape that the patriarchy can no longer seduce. You want the truth? The purpose of this Men's Circle is to change the shape of your Being by collecting up your parts, repackaging your survival strategies, and adding distinctions which build matrix to catch new consciousness so that you fall through the gaps in the patriarchal gameworld... into the nothingness between gameworlds and make steps along a bridge towards archearchy. These terms are used with their archearchal meanings. For now, let us leave it that the purpose of your Men's Circle is to escape the patriarchy. You can tell other 'men' this Purpose. If someone is attracted to participate, they are ready. Or they are possibly spies for the patriarchy, in which case their circuits will fry. We don't worry about that. It is also useful to say what the purpose of this Men's Circle is NOT.+ Men's Circle is NOT a place for secretly gay men to secretly flirt and try to find new boyfriends.

Men's Circle is NOT a place for Beings wearing male bodies to be confused about whether they are men or not.
Men's Circle is NOT a place for transgender Beings to assert their pronoun neurosis.
Men's Circle is NOT a place that submits to LGBT thoughtware. This expresses no opinion about the LGBT context and gameworlds. It only says that Men's Circle originates in a different context than LGBT, and does not include the LGBT context or thoughtware.
And, Men's Circle is NOT a place for patriarchs to revel in adolescent misogynistic cigar-smoking brandy-sipping back-slapping congratulatory arrogance about boondoggling the Earth in 6000 years of capitalist patriarchal empire evil in service to the unconscious uninitiated Gremlins that own them by the balls.

An escape Team is light on its feet, resilient, fiercely clear in its context, inventive, deeply collaborative, and proactive. Men's Team is NOT a Gremlin feeding ground. There is no space for that. If you are not clear about what your Purpose is and what your Purpose is NOT, your Men's Circle will sink the moment it leaves the shores of mediocrity. I say this even though the Men's Circle that saved my life by destroying my unconscious habits consisted of a Pedophile Alcoholic Gay Man, an Artistic Gay Man, a Punk Sometimes-Gay Man, and me. This Men's Circle worked because it functioned unwaveringly in the context of radical responsibility. Here is how your Men's Circle can start:1. Pick a date that is less than 13 days from NOW. Each meeting is 2 hours long.

Meet in your livingroom.
You are not the 'leader'. Leaders can only exist if there are also followers. You are not the 'guru' or the 'teacher'. The 'guru' and 'teacher' concepts originate in the patriarchal paradigm which designs organizations using hierarchies. Hierarchies are a design-error because hierarchies get hijacked by psychopaths.
Instead you are the Spacholder of the circle. Spaceholding works in a circular meeting (a torus). You may eventually evolve to rotate who serves in the Spaceholder job each week, but for the beginning, you are the Spaceholder.
This is your gameworld. Learn what a gameworld is, how gameworlds work, how to build them, feed them, and care for them. This is important. This website can serve you as the first draft of the Codex of your Men's Circle gameworld.
Tell every male person you meet during the next 13 days the following sentence: "We are starting a Men's Circle to escape the patriarchy. Are you in?"
It does not matter if you know these 'men' or not. You only ask once and you explain nothing more. If the person says, "Yes," get their contact info.
Collect no more than 12 names. Aim for having no more than 8 at your weekly Men's Circle meetings, which meets at the same time and the same place every week. No, this is not fair. Men's Circle is not fair. It has a different purpose: to escape the patriarchy.
Tell the 'men' they need to bring a Beep! Book and pen with them, and, they must arrive no more than10 minutes BEFORE start time, and no later than 5 minutesBEFORE start time, or the door will be locked and they will not be admitted. They have a 5-minute entry window. If they cannot arrange their life to do this, then they won't make it in Men's Circle anyway. Men's Circle is not a social gathering.
Do not serve or offer any food or drink at Men's Circle. People should bring their own water bottle if they need it.
Men's Circle is a two-hour weekly meeting. Start on time. End on time.
Use Torus Technology decision-making and conflict-resolution processes. Particularly use Frying Pan and Poop On The Table. A circle (torus) structure optimizes leadership space and group intelligence. At the same time, the context and mission are set: The Context is: Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes of Radical Responsibility. The Mission is: Escape The Patriarchy. You do not already know how to do this. That is why you need the Men's Circle Team. Men's Circle is your starship Enterprise, going where (nearly) no man has gone before.

Here are some proposals for what can happen at your Men's Circle:1. Start warm up with 'Break In Certainty' exercises. These can be different each meeting. Not only do these exercises open a crack in 'ordinariness', they also build essential skills for next culture, that is, for 'archearchy'.

Do not discuss. This puts people's Center in their head. Then the best that can happen is understanding. Understanding is last prize. What you are aiming for is Transformation, Matrix building, and the evolution of consciousness that changes the shape of each person's Being enough that the patriarchy can no longer seduce them.
For the last 5 minutes of the meeting, everyone gives feedback and coaching to the Spaceholder so that they hear what worked, what did not work, and what they can shift to create better results next time.
The point of starting and ending on time is conservation of energy, keeping your Word, fulfilling your Stand, and minding your Commitments. This establishes Men's Circle as a dependable 'meal' of extraordinary 'food' in the life each 'man' that nurtures them towards leaving behind the patriarchy and growing into a Man together co-creating bridges to archearchy. (HINT: Some guidelines in the Possibility Team Handbook and resources at Go Explore may prove useful for navigating your Men's Circle.

This Experiment is to start your Men's Circle.

Once your Men's Circle is started, proceed together doing the Experiments below.

EACH TIME YOU COME TOGETHER IN MEN'S CIRCLE PRACTICE BEING CENTERED

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You have 5 Bodies: physical, intellectual, emotional, energetic, and archetypal.

This is a very different worldview from thinking of yourself as a physical body with a mind.

Each of your 5 Bodies has a Center.

Do whatever exercises are necessary to take ownership of the Center of each of your 5 Bodies so that you can put each Center where it needs to be so you can Be Centered.

Men's Circle cannot begin until you are Centered. Otherwise you are not there. Something else is there, and that something else has no capacity to escape the patriarchy.

EACH TIME YOU COME TOGETHER IN MEN'S CIRCLE PRACTICE TAKING BACK ANOTHER ASPECT OF YOUR AUTHORITY

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Take back your authority to express your considerations and experiences in writing.

WRITE YOUR ARTICLE ABOUT PREPARING TO ESCAPE FROM THE PATRIARCHY

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This Experiment is to make it a requirement that the third time a 'man' attends your Men's Circle, the price of entry for him is a 3 to 5 page article which he wrote and published online (platforms for publishing your article are shown at index.php?p=writeyourarticle).

The article should be about what exactly is required for a 'man' - and specifically for him personally - to find and stand at the edge of the capitalist patriarchal empire in order to prepare himself to escape from the patriarchy.

LOWER YOUR NUMBNESS BAR AND KEEP IT LOWERED - EVEN WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE GOING CRAZY

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This will be intense, as intense as a Fast And Furious movie, as intense as gambling at the stock market, as intense as having another affair.

Lower Your Numbness Bar and:

Do not drink alcohol, even beer or wine. Just stop.
Do not smoke cigarettes, cigars, electronic cigarettes, shisha / nargile / hookah.
Do not smoke marijuana or hash.
Do not use any drugs.
Do not over-eat.
Do not over-exercise.
Do not over-shop.
Do not over-masturbate, even with another person.
Do not have arguments with ANYONE, even with yourself.

You will need help lowering your Numbness Bar. You won't make it alone.

If you are not deeply connected-in with your Men's Circle Team you might even accidentally die... (think of Heath Ledger, Michael Jackson, Tom Petty, Prince, John Belushi, Lenny Bruce, Jim Morrison, River Phoenix, and many others... )

You are a stupid-bomb ready to explode or collapse at any trigger, and you have been expertly numbing yourself for decades. This is what your Team is for: to help each other.

How do you help? You Hold Space, make connection, and listen, listen, listen. Not Rescue. Listen.

You listen so that the speaker has a safe place in which they can learn to consciously feel.

Feelings and Emotions (which are very different from each other) wake up at the level of maturity they were when you shut them down... often when you were less than 1 year old, sometimes even in the mother's belly.

This means they come back as self-hatred, blame, accusation, or collapse. Their condition does not matter. After the slag of emotional slime blows off in the safe space, pure precious intelligent present-time feelings show up from underneath. This is what you are heading for.

But you can't get there without going through the rotten stuff first. It does not take too long if you adopt the New Thoughtmap of Feelings and someone listens to you with Completion Loops.

This Experiment is to spend the first part of every Men's Circle listening with Completion Loops to each person's current Feelings and Emotions and what they are about. You can call this 'Check-In'.

EACH TIME YOU COME TO MEN'S CIRCLE DO THE 3-3-3 EXERCISE TOGETHER

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The 3-3-3 Practice is that 3 time per week, for 3 minutes each time, over a period of 3 months, lie down on your bed or a couch and do lying rage work, out loud. If your rage sounds might bother the neighbors, you can do it with a cloth in your mouth. But your nervous system reorders through your Voice, so if you are not VERY loud, and VERY rude, and VERY outrageous in your 3-3-3 Practice, you are NOT doing it.

Important further specifics are given in the 3-3-3 website.

The Experiment is to make one of your three 3-3-3 Practices each week all together during your Men's Circle meeting.

ESCAPE FROM VERBAL REALITY TO EXPERIENTIAL REALITY

Matrix Code MENSCIRC.07

YOU DO NOT KNOW HOW TO LISTEN. YOU DO NOT KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE. PATRIARCHS DO NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT LISTENING OR COMMUNICATING. THEY ARE TOO SCARED TO CONNECT. YOU CAN START OVER. BEEP! SHIFT! GO! LEARN TO MAKE COMPLETION LOOPS.

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ENTER LIQUID STATES - EVEN IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE GOING CRAZY

Matrix Code MENSCIRC.09

Addiction is not the problem. Addiction is the solution to the problem. What is the problem?

The problem is that you cannot Consciously Feel. You have been taught the opposite: conscious numbness.

Any change from one way to another way crosses through one or more places where there is no way.

That place where there is no way is groundless, therefore unfamiliar, therefore objectively frightening.

Because you are terrified of your fear, you automatically turn away from any chance to go through the Liquid States between your current way and any new way.

You have effectively nailed your shoes to the floor exactly where you are. This explains a lot about your life. You already went to school. You assume that there is nothing else to learn.

Nothing could be farther from the truth.

What we invite you to do is step out of your shoes. Leave your nailed-down shoes behind. Move forward barefoot, more connected to Earth, without the familiar numbness.

In short this Experiment is: Learn to cry.

Your heart is broken. You have locked the horrific pain of your broken heart deep inside of you for decade after insane decade.

Learn how to unleash big, loud, heaving aching sobs... for a long time, in public, at least in the Presence of another human being who can hear you and Hold Space for you.

If you ever knew how to cry, you have forgotten. You put your sadness away under lock and key. As a result, your heart is shriveled from loneliness. You are lonely without sadness because sadness connects. "In sorrows we are one."

You make huge efforts to keep yourself distracted from feeling your heart's pitiable shriveled condition.

To not cry you have built a suffocating wall around your heart. What is your wall made of? Steel? Stone? Barbed wire? Concrete? All of the above with machine guns on top?

Find the material of your wall. Draw a detailed sketch of your wall in your Beep! Book. (It does not matter if you 'cannot draw'.)

After you draw your sketch, each one show and explain it to the others.

Then spend 10 minutes with each 'man' in the circle inventing linear and nonlinear Experiments they could try in the next weeks for taking a bit of the wall around their heart apart. If they do not write down what you say, they are wasting your time. Anything they understand in their mind can be erased and forgotten by their Box and Gremlin in less than 3 seconds.

Hold each other accountable for doing these Experiments. That is what this Team is for.

ESCAPE FROM DEFENSIVE LEARNING TO EXPANSIVE LEARNING

Matrix Code MENSCIRC.10

WORK TOGETHER TO CALIBRATE ONE ANOTHER'S 'FEELINGS DETECTORS': TO SENSE BETWEEN ANGER,

SADNESS, FEAR, AND JOY, WHAT PERCENTAGE BIG (FROM 0% TO 100% INTENSITY) EACH FEELING IS, AND TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS

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EACH TIME YOU COME TO MEN'S CIRCLE DO EXERCISES TO MAKE SURE EACH 'MAN' HAS HIS CENTER, HIS GROUNDING CORD, HIS PERSONAL BUBBLE OF SPACE, HIS GREMLIN SITTING AT HIS SIDE ON A SHORT CHAIN, AND HIS SWORD OF CLARITY TO HAND

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Before this Men's Circle, each 'man' obtain (buy, or even better, hand-carve together) a 'Bokken', a Japanese wooden practice sword as described in **[Youtube tSpdbnO9ZPk
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