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MIXED EMOTIONS

The beginning...

4 Feelings and 4 Emotions

The discovery of Mixed Emotions was made by Marion Lutz on a Feeling Discovery workshop in Munich in 2007.

The discovery of Mixed Emotions is based on the 4 Feelings Map from Valerie Lankford.

Based on the Valerie's Map, we discovered that all Emotional experiences emerge out of the 4 Feelings.

One major leap that helped the Team of Possibility Managers, and Possibilitator around the world provide Possibility for their clients and participants was to discover that Anger, Sadness, Fear and Joy can be either experienced as Feelings or Emotions.

The ripples of the distinction between Feelings and Emotions are still being unfolding today.

Any 'feelings work' that does not apply the distinction between Feelings and Emotions is bound to enhance and support Survival Strategies, Gremlin feeding frenzies and empower Shadow Purposes in their gameworld and for their participants/clients.

Emotions are the emotional component of the Box-Gremlin structure.

Feelings are information and energy that emerge out of the decontaminated Adult Egostate in the Present to make use of for your Life, in your Relationship, and for delivering your Nonmaterial Value.

Emotions are information and energy that emerge out of your Child, Parent, Gremlin or Demon Egostate for the purpose of keeping your safe, and keeping things the same. Emotions are not bad. However, they have a very specific use, which is, they are doorways for Emotional Healing Processes.

What an incredible discovery!

You want to discovery what is your next step on your Healing Path, notice your next Emotional Reaction, write it down and take it to your Emotional Healing Process Dojo to go through that it.

When it comes to Mixed Emotion, the core Emotional Healing Process to come out on the other side of your Survival Strategy of Mixed Emotion is to separate your Emotions. Separating or Unmixing Emotion is not a process you can do in your head. You can think about Unmixing your Emotions for as long as you want, but nothing will change. Only the Emotional Healing Process of Unmixing Emotions can actually Unmix your Emotions.What Are The Mixed Emotions?

Mixing your Emotions is a survival strategy that you discovered and put in place, probably pretty young, to... well, to survive.

Being born in a Culture where it is not ok to feel, to have big feeling, to scream, to shout, to cry, to shake, to even speak about what your heart longs to share, you had to find a way to block out the huge amount of information and energy that your Emotional Body - your heart - kept pourring out.

One of a very efficient ways to do that, to block pure Anger, Sadness, Fear or Joy is to mixed them together.

The results of Mixing Emotions is similar not matter which Emotions or how many Emotions you mixed together: you do not have access to the information and energy of your Pure Feelings to take action (or your pure Emotions - for healing).

Mixing your Emotions is like mixing North, South, East, and West together in one great melting pot. You have no idea in which direction to go or what action to take. You are without a compass to navigate.

Is it so unimaginable then that you feel lost? That you do not know what you want? That you are not able to create what you want?

How could you without a calibrated inner compass?

With Mixed Emotion as a constant experience, it is a big mess in there. You take a step in one direction, the other mixed emotions pulls you in the opposite direction. For example, if you mix Anger and Sadness together you will have an experience known as Depression. Depression is simply the name that has been given to what it feels like to blend Anger with Aadness. Depression can be described as having one pedal on the accelerator - the feeling of Anger which is the energy of action, movement, creation - and one pedal on the break - the feeling of Sadness which is the energy of slowing down, connecting, being with.

It is possible to feel Anger and Sadness at the same time, even about the same thing, without mixing them. Unmixed, your Anger gives you information and energy to take action while at the same time, your Sadness keeps you in connection with yourself and others in your action.

When you are Depressed, there is nothing you can do to make use of all that energy coming through. The energy is stuck inside of you with no way out. You are left in a great emotional mess.

Mixed Emotions are not good and not bad, you might notice that your Box and Gremlin like feeling different Mixed Emotions. For example, my Box and Gremlin loves dwelling in Nostalgia and Melancholia on a rainy Sunday afternoon by the fire. So what?

The difference is choice.

As long as Mixing Emotions is one of your survival strategies, you have no choice about it. At any appropriate trigger, your survival strategy will mix Anger and Sadness to experience Depression, or Fear and Sadness to experience Isolation, or Anger, Fear and Sadness to experience Guilt.

With choice, any time you want, you can have the experience of Depression simply by mixing Anger and Sadness together. You can also end the experience of Depression any time you want simply by separating the Anger and Sadness from each other and experiencing and expressing each of them in their pure form.

Before we move on to the process itself of Unmixing Emotion, it is useful to clarify the experiences of Mixed Emotions.

Unmix Emotions, Map of Mixed Feelings, starter.xyz, Possibility Management

Section image Anger + Sadness

Mixing Anger and Sadness creates:

Depression
Resignation

Section image Anger + Fear

Mixing Fear and Anger creates:+ Hysteria

Agression

Here is an 'interesting' anedocte. The surgery for removing a women's womb in English (and in other latin based languages) is called a Hysterectomy. Taking out a woman's womb - a defining part of her womanhood - is to take out the hysteria in her. This is Patriarchal medicine. However, it is not uncommon for uninitiated woman to experience hysteria because, a woman in the Patriarchy is taught to be afraid of her anger. A powerful strategy to do this is to mix Fear and Anger together.A man (in the Patriarchy) is taught to be Angry about their Fear. Therefore, the manifestation of Mixed Fear and Anger in man shows up more often as Agression than Hysteria. Section image Fear + Sadness

Mixing Fear and Sadness creates:

Isolation
Despair
Hopelessness
Powerlessness
Loneliness

These are the sensations that most people experience just before they kill themselves. The Emotional Sadness of disconnection combined with the Emotional Fear that it will last forever. It is hopeless, why should I keep going? Section image Fear + Joy

Mixing Joy and Fear creates:

Curiosity
Excitement
Recklessness
Carelessness (taking careless tisk)

Remember, Mixed Emotions are Emotions. In the case of recklessness or carelessness, the Emotional Joy is that of your Gremlin. Your Gremlin does not have a conscience. Your Gremlin will kill any space of intimacy at any time for no reason other than its own survival. Section image Anger + Joy

Mixing Anger and Joy creates:

Schadenfreude, which is a German word that means 'being glad when someone else feels pain or loses'. This is the sensation that you experience when you see a person fall and you (your Gremlin) laughes, or when you cannot stop watching YouTube videos about people hurting themselves caught on camera
Masochism

Section image Sadness + Joy

Mixing Sadness and Joy creates:

Nostalgia, which has more Joy than Sadness
Sentimentality, which has more Sadness than Joy
Melancholy, which also has more Sadness than Joy
In Portuguese, they have a word for the exact mixture of 50% Sadness - 50% Joy: 'Saudade' for which there is no translation in English

Section image Mix 3: Anger + Sadness + Fear

Mixing three Emotions together creates sensations that are particularly gripping. Because when three Emotions are involved and the sensations are so strong, it can seem as if the situation is unsolvable. Yet three-Emotion mixes can also be directly unmixed.

When mixing Anger, Sadness and Fear, you create experiences such as:

Jealousy
Shame
Guilt
Resentment
Lack of self-esteem

Section image Mix 3: Anger + Sadness + Joy

When mixing Anger, Sadness and Joy, you create experiences such as:

Spite
Vengeance
Revenge

Section image Mix 3: Fear + Sadness + Joy

When mixing Fear, Sadness, and Joy, you create experience such as:

Envy
Self-pity
Complaining
'I am be miserable as payback for your betrayal'
Inferiority
Manipulation

The Joy in the mix of Fear, Sadness, and Joy is the Joy is Righteousness. Nobody can prove you wrong about how much of a failure you are. You are right about being wrong. At least you are right about that. Section image Mix 3: Anger + Fear + Joy

When mixing Anger, Fear and Joy, you create experiences such as:

Greed
Superiority

Section image Mix 4: Anger + Fear + Joy + Sadness

Mixing four emotions together is what causes:

Burnout
Emotional paralysis
Psychological breakdown

These are very confusing, disempowering and disturbing experiences.

The ProcessThe four primary emotions – Anger, Sadness, Fear and Joy – are useful for healing only when experienced in their pure form.

For this example, we will unmix Anger and Sadness, which when mixed cause the sensation of Depression.

Mixing Anger with Sadness is like mixing cow poop and milk. Cow poop has its uses. Milk has other uses. Mixing the two together produces slime. The same is true of Emotions.

Even if you feel both Anger and Sadness about the same thing, the two emotions can be experienced and expressed distinctly and clearly, each in its own measure and to its own end.

To step out of Depression (and other Mixed Emotions),follow this procedure: 1Notice

The instant you notice sensations of Depression, set aside ten minutes to separate your Emotions. If you cannot go through the Unmixing Emotion right now. Immediately write down 'Depression' in a page at the back of your Beep! Book for you to remember later to ask for a spaceholder for Unmixing your Depression

It helps a lot to have a Possibility Coach with you. They detect when your Emotions are pure, and complete your incomplete Emotions.

Center Yourself

When you have create space and time for yourself to go through Unmixing your Depression, start by taking a deep breath, center yourself, ground yourself, and bubble yoursed.

Then lower your numbeness bar and naviguate into the very familiar sensation of Depression. You do not have to make or force the Depression, it is already there.

The way in is to finally let the emotional slime of Depression move to the surface, instead of pressing it down.

Depression is loud, it might even be physically painful, you have slime, and sobbs, and your hands are in fists, all at the same time.

Reach In Your Heart

When you experience about than 50% intense Depression, put your hands back-to-back, your fingers pointing towards your heart (see photo below).
Press your fingers gently but firmly against your sternum and let your energetic fingers go right through your heart, all the way to your spine.

As you are reaching deep into your heart with both hands, the pain grows, you feel the full experience of Mixing your Sadness and Anger together.

Pull Them Apart

Collect the Anger part of your Depression into your energetic and physical right hand. Collect the Sadness part of your Depression into your energetic and physical left hand. (It is not important which hand collects which Emotion.)

With the movement of your physical hands, pull the Anger and the Sadness apart slowly and with the Clarity of your Feeling of Anger. It will require as much force and Clarity as separating branches from strong bushes so you could walk across them.

Make sure that you do not stop half-way until your hands are stretched on either side of your body.

Put Them Aside

Let the Anger is your right drop into an energetic pile on your right side. Do the same with the Sadness on your left.

Layers

Your Depression has layers.

Repeat the steps 3, 4 and 5 up to five, six, maybe seven times for the Depression to be fully unmixed.

With each layer, you will experience that you can feel Anger more purely and Sadness more purely.

Warning! Unmixing Emotion is not about perfection. Any process can never be perfectly complete. You go as far as you can go that day.

Integration

After working through a certain number of layers, keep your eyes closed and let your nervous system integrate for about a minute. Keep breathing and do not go into your head.

Now, you have a pile of pure Anger on your right, and a pile of pure Sadness on your left. It is possible that some lower intensity of Fear and Joy was also mixed in. Pull them out too, and place them is separate piles.

Experience Pure Anger

Each Pure Feeling and Pure Emotion belongs in a specific resonant tissue in your physical body (read more about this below). Your Anger belongs in your bones.

With your physical and energetic hands, pick up the pile of Unmixed Anger, and slowly put it into your heart. Immediately, you will feel Angry. Responsibly experience and express pure anger. Let the Anger come from your bones and not your muscles. Relax your muscles.

Let the Anger speak through sounds, and words. What have you not said?

Ask your Possibility Coach to complete your incomplete communications.

Experience Pure Sadness

Do the same with your Pure Sadness. Pick up your Pure Sadness, and direct it into your heart. Your Sadness belongs in all the liquid parts of your body (water, blood, lympth,...). Let the Sadness flow into the liquid parts of your body.

Responsibly experience and express your Pure Sadness. Share your pain, grieve changes, let go of expectations, connect heart to heart. You may feel Sad about the same things you were Angry about, or Sad about other things. But now the Emotions are Pure, no longer Mixed.

It could well be that your Anger or your Sadness are doorways for other Emotional Healing Processes. If it the case, ask your Possibility Coach to write down for you at the back of your Beep! Book.

0Stay On Guard

You have habitually Mixed your Emotions for years, and you are just starting to insist on Pure Emotions. You have grooves in your 5-body that are familiar with the experience of Depression and new to the experience of Pure Anger and Pure Sadness.

The instant you notice emotions creeping back together, notice which feeling is bigger: Sadness or Anger.

Experience, express, and make use (if it a feeling, take action; if it is an Emotion, it is a doorway for an EHP). Then move on to the other Pure Feeling or Emotion.

There might be other layers in the way of a change of behaviours. Please read the 'Other Processes' section in that regard.

And, get used to the new Possibilities.

Day-to-Day

When you thoroughly Unmix your Emotions, you may feel Angry in one moment and Sad in the next, or even at the same time, but there is no more Depression. You never need to Mix your Emotions again. By keeping your emotions separated, the symptoms and results of mixed Emotion vanish.

Section image Demonstration

Step 3

Demonstration & Distinction Unmixing Emotions

Anne-Chloé Destremau while holding space for a client to Unmix her Emotions delivers a number of powerful distinctions about how to truly Unmix your Emotions in your heart and not in your head.

3 PHASE HEALING

Other Processes

& Dimensions of Unmixing Emotions

Mixed Emotions & Brain Drugs

Modern Culture does not want its citizens empowered to think and feel independently or it would provide an entirely different educational system, and an entirely different health system. Modern Culture doctors have been trained to handle Feeling and Emotions, Pure or Mixed, as Problems to get rid of, not as powerful and limitless inner resources. The solution to the Problem is (too) often brain drugs. Even psychologists and psychiatrists are terrified of their own Feelings and Emotions, and have no skills to navigate their hearts and even less provide a safe space to navigate yours.

The sensation of alienation that comes from being born and raised in a culture without Adults, without Adulthood and Archetypal Initiatory Processes, without Community and for which the only purpose is for you to 'make more money' for Psychopaths that head corporations and institutions is, by all account, appropriate. This is another topic, however, we take the time to mention here.

Feeling Angry, Sad, Scared about your environment, your relationships, the Possibility offered to you by Modern Culture means that you are still human, and that, you know that something completely different from this is possible right now. Modern Culture does not want you to know that at the risk of its own survival.

Brain drugs create a state on constant Numbness, and cristallize your Box survival patterns. Brain drugs support Modern Culture to make into another slave-zombie to the capitalist economic machine. If you are on brain drugs, Emotional Healing Processes might not have the same profoundly transformational effect on your 5-body.

A group of Possibilitators have been researching the Path to Getting Off Brain Drugs (even for people who have been on brain drugs for decades) in combination with reclaiming your Heart, your ability to feel, and going through 5-body transformational Liquid State.

Mixed Emotions & 3 Phase Healing

Archiarchy requires clear Emotions from you.

Unmixing your Emotions is part of a 3 Phase Healing Process. Unmixing your Emotions will not make you better adjusted to your life in Modern Culture. It will not help you to get a better corporate job, or to fulfill a fantasy-world based relationship, to to help you to fit in with your family or friends. The 3 Phase Healing process is, not trying to take the 'dis-ease' out of you, but taking yourself out of the 'dis-ease' state.

Unmixing your Emotions liberate your Heart from its previous constrictions. Your Being gets a chance to starts on its Quest. Unmixing your Emotions may well be your first steps on your path of Adulthood and into Archiarchy, at the edge of the child-responsibility centered Modern Culture.

Unmixing your Emotions is a Shift of Identity.

Mixed Emotions & Old Decisions

Mixed Emotions can be the emotional component of an Old Decision. A long time ago, most likely when you were very young, you made decisions in a life or death survival situation, from which you survive and then completely forgot that you made such decisions. When you forget your decision, it does not go away. It is still shaping your Being and your life.

For example, you might have been left as a baby crying in the crib until you fell asleep. In that moment of terror and disconnection, you could have made old decisions such as 'I am alone, nobody cares about me', 'I cannot trust anybody', 'I will do it all by myself', 'I do not need anybody', etc... For such a decision "to stick", you would have at the same time, decided to Mixed your Sadness and Fear together to keep feeling this deep Aloneness that you were feeling back then as a baby. You have learned how to go about your Life by being a lone-wolf, never truly relying on other, or being on a Team. When you are alone, you are in familiar territory, you know how to survive, you have done it all your life.

Your Box can survive when you are alone. Your Box does not know if it can survive when you are connected. Therefore, your Box will keep mixing Fear and Sadness to make sure that you survive. And you are lacking the information and energy of your Pure Unmixed Feelings to discover what else is Possible.

To gain access to your inner and outer resources by keep your Emotions Unmix, a Shift of Identity is necessary in addition to separating your Fear and Sadness. Here are a few new identities to try on: 'I am a broadbandwith connector', 'I am a Team Builder', 'I trust myself to take care of myself around anybody', 'I am connected to Gaia', 'I am a Village Weaver'.

Mixed Emotions & Concepts

Some Mixed Emotions are triggered by a Concept. A concept is a set of ideas that seems to hang enough together that you can imagine it is real.

For example, the Mixed Emotion of Guilt is triggered by the concept of Right and Wrong. The concept serves dogmatic religions in which someone ('The Priest') has the authority to proclam a jugdment on your state of Being. Guilt has been infamously used by certain religious organizations to make their subjects so frightened they would give their spiritual Authority away and pay taxes.

As with any concept, Guilt is used to trigger specific Mixed Emotions which are then used to justify the validity of the concept. It’s a vicious circle. In the case of Guilt, the Mixed Emotions are Anger, Sadness and Fear.

Another example is the concept that there is such a thing as A Rule. If you think 'There is a rule, and I have to obey it', then this could easily trigger Mixed Emotions such as Powerlessness (Fear + Sadness) or Depression (Anger + Sadness). The Mixed Emotions leaves you without your emotional resources to Ask Questions, Negotiate Intimacy, take someone through Vacuum Rapid Learning. Almost as if you are believing in the concept of A Rule so that you have a really good excuse to not do anything about it...

Another concept that powerfully creates Mixed Emotions is the construct of Family. It can trigger a myriad of Mixed Emotions such as: duty, a sense of belonging, loyalty, or betrayal, powerlessness to be accepted, or superiority as the favorite child, jealousy between syblings, depression because 'I have to follow the rules', resentment for not having had the perfect childhood, taking revenge on your parents so you can prove to the world how bad they were, etc...

Each culture, and ultimately each person has a different concept of Family that could trigger various Mixed Emotion. Believing in your concept of Family is keeping you in one of the 8 prisons to exit to become Adult.

A last example, but not the least of them, is the concept of Relationship. Over the years (I would even say, over your many life times), you have built in yourself a concept about what a Relationship is or is not. This defines how you should behave, how your partner should behave, how do you know your Relationship is working or not working, when the Relationship should end, when it is time to start another Relationship, etc... Your concept of Relationship is a Fantasy World and it mined and kept together by Mixed Emotions. As mentioned above, if you feel it then it must be real - or does it?

A Relationship Construct could trigger Mixed Emotions of guilt (you did not do it good enough), shame (for example, when talking or negotiating sexual intimacy), betrayal (if you partner forgets your birthday or creates intimacy with someone else), resentment (when you partner does not fulfill your self-made Expectations and Assumptions), belonging, superiority (you are married and your sister is not), unworthiness (if you cannot make your partner happy), etc...

Ask for an Emotional Healing Process(es) to clarify and deconstruct your concept: where did you get the concept from? who else carried or still carries the same concept as you? why is it important for you to keep that concept taking you away from Presence? what skill would be involved for you to exit the concept and enter a constructless Life?

If you successfully exit the concept, you have no reason to keep Mixing your Emotions.

Mixed Emotions & Egostate Contamination

As an additional survival strategy, you might have contaminated your Adult Egostate with your Child, Parent, or Gremlin Egostate. The contamination is an effective and immediate protection against your Being being vulnerable and seen. It also leaves you unable to Radically Relate from your Being to someone else's Being.

One of the behaviours of your contamination could be Mixing your Emotions. If your Adult Egostate is contaminated with survival patterns of being powerless, hopeless, resentful, seeking revenge, cynism, manipulation, agression or heightened and therefore inauthentic curiosity or excitement, then you do not get to be yourself.

Any time you try to communicate an authentic need or impulse, your Child, Gremlin or Parent Egostate twists your communication for their own survival purposes. Nothing changes, and you remains with the sensation that you are never truly heard or seen.

The Child Egostate contamination thrives on being powerless (Fear + Sadness), overwhelmed (Anger + Fear + Sadness + Joy), needy (Fear + Sadness), agressive (Anger + Joy), or inferior (Fear + Sadness + Joy).
The Gremlin Egostate contamination thrives on being betrayed (Anger + Fear + Sadness), on taking Revenge (Anger + Fear + Joy), holding on to Resentment (Anger + Fear + Sadness), on Schadenfreude (Anger + Joy), or being Depressed (Anger + Sadness).
The Parent Egostate contamination thrives on being superior (Anger + Fear + Joy), on being rightheous (Anger + Fear + Joy), on manipulating oneself or others (Sadness + Fear + Joy), or on terrorising (Anger + Fear) other through threats and sneaky remarks.

Seperating your Emotions is part of the process of Decontaminating your Adult Egostate. However, the decontamination itself is a 1-to-2 year long process that is to be done in company of a Decontamination Coach and a Team. The Decontamination Process cannot happen alone. If you notice that no matter how many time you Unmix Your Emotions, they keep coming back, it is a strong sign that your Adult Egostate is contaminated by one or more of your other Egostates.Dramaholism

You might be addicted to Low Drama. Meaning, your Gremlin might be addicted to Low Drama. The symptoms that would reveal Dramaholism are that, after participating in an Expand The Box Training and 2 or 3 Possibility Labs, Low Drama is still occuring in your Life: with your partner, within your Team, at work, with your Family.

Mixed Emotions is fuel for Low Drama. Gremlin thrives on Mixed Emotions, and feeds on Low Drama.

There are a number of symptoms for Dramaholism, which you can read on the Dramaholic website. One symptom of Dramaholism related to Mixed Emotions is an attraction to high and regular emotional intensity such as feeling the 'big' Mixed Emotions such as Jealousy, Despair, Guilt, Overwhelm, Shame, Depression.

Dramaholism is an addiction. You never heal completely from Dramaholism, but you can recover. Please refer to the Dramaholic website for more information.

Phase 1 to Phase 2 of Feelings Work

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